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发表于 2014-12-24 09:54:18
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"Being success you can't do it alone. It must have inter-person skill (人脉關係). ..." Absolutely. The problem is the education in Toronto is teaching to believe they are the best. You cannot criticize them of not performing the best. In their group work, there's almost always a dominant person who will "dictate" everything.
"人脉關係 can't be taught in school/book. ..." To make it worse, the texting, the internet, ... Nowadays, a lot of young people don't even know what is "人脉關係". A lot of them are self-centered.
I think this is also the cultural difference. When I read the book "Tiger Mom", I think it is a description of what most of us went through. I feel it is just normal but the criticism that the author received from the western culture is eye-opening. The interesting thing to me is, on average, we, Chinese, are not doing worse, if not better, than the other cultures. What's wrong of having high expectation and pushing for the limits? However, as parents, we have to recognize the strength and weakness of our kids. If someone is good in technical skills, pushing him/her to academic may turn into disasters.
To me, we need to humble some of the young kids without destroying their confidence. I think "humble" is one of the best qualities that Chinese has in our tradition. "自大自滿" is a source of self-destruction.
Sorry I have to write it in English. I read and write traditional Chinese but I don't know how to type it (never learn) unless I kept using Google translation or online dictionary and it will take me forever to type a message!
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